vulkan: remove the need for the dryrun (#16826)

* vulkan: remove the need for the dryrun

Allocate pipelines and descriptor sets when requested.

Reallocate the prealloc buffers when needed, and flush any pending work
before reallocating.

For rms_partials and total_mul_mat_bytes, use the sizes computed the last time
the graph was executed.

* remove dryrun parameters